WHAT IS SELF-NEGLECT
According to Collings Dictionary SELF NEGLECT is the inadequate care of oneself; not looking after oneself properly.
From an early age, people are taught how to read and write, how to solve math problems, and how to be well mannered. We learn how to think critically and reach the next rung on the ladder toward success. we tend not to notice how much attention we give to the outside world – to work, friends, and family, what’s happening in our community, and to what’s happening in the world. It’s not that those people and things aren’t important.
Most of them are VERY important. But by putting almost all (if not ALL) attention on the outer world, we let our relationship with the divine and with our higher selves just “wither on the vine”…not nourishing them or being nourished BY them.
There’s no question that a solid fitness routine can improve your life immensely. We know that regular exercise and a healthy diet can lead to more energy, better sleep, higher self-esteem, and more self-confidence.
But there’s another aspect to wellness that many people neglect: self-care. Self-care is essential for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being.ways to release the self-neglect and give yourself what you deserve
- GIVE YOURSELF SPACE TO BREATH.
You need time for yourself. You need time to simply BE. That can happen in a forest. It can happen in a hot shower but if you’re burnt out and stressed beyond belief, the last thing you need is to be surrounded by people who are pulling for your time (even if they are the people you love most). Take time away for yourself. Just you… Don’t worry. You’ll love the company.
- EAT HEALTHIER.
One of the greatest forms of self-neglect comes from how one chooses to eat. If you feed yourself highly processed, low nutrient foods, you might make your taste buds happy, but your mind, body, and soul will suffer. Caring about yourself includes giving your cells the nutrition they need to function properly, so replace fattening, packaged snacks with vibrant, fresh foods like fruit and vegetables. Your cells will thank you for feeding them what they really want!
- STAY ORGANIZE
Once you’ve committed to making time for your self-care, it’s important to set goals and re-organize your life to include the new activities. Since there are so many different ways to practice self-care in your busy life, you have to figure out the balance that will help you to thrive the most. Then, write out your plans on a calendar or checklist and stick to them.
This will help keep you from burnout at the gym or adding 3 inches to your waist. Like with any area of your life, staying organized will increase your chances of success and add enjoyment to your day.
7. BECOME WILLING TO SURRENDER
Breathe, relax, and let go. You can never see the whole picture. You don’t know what anything is for. Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.
8. WORK ON PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT.
Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level. Take penguin steps and life becomes difficult. One step at a time is enough to proceed forward.
Common Examples of Self-Neglect
- Not pursuing an activity that you know you would enjoy
- Settling for a job that’s under-challenging or isn’t stimulating
- Unhealthy eating
- Not getting enough sleep or rest
- Not developing a talent that you know you have
- Engaging excessively in an activity that harms your body and detracts from your emotional health, like pot-smoking or using other drugs (For example, Silas’s drinking)
- Generally over-focusing on other people’s needs while leaving your own unmet
- Not exercising enough
- Not speaking up for your opinions
- Over-scheduling yourself so that you don’t have enough free time
- Settling for too little joy or fun in your life