“Don’t pay any attention to what they write about you. Just measure it in inches.”
― Andy Warhol
Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.
criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride,hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment
Hans selye a great psychologist said, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”
The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees,family members and friends and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.
You will find examples of the futility of criticism bristling on a thousand pages of history. take for example,the famous quarrel between Theodore Roosevelt and president Taft a quarrel that split the republican party, put Woodrow Wilson in the white house, and wrote bold luminous lines across the first world war and altered the flow of history.let’s review the fact
quickly. when Theodore Roosevelt stepped out of the white house in 1908;he supported Taft, who was elected president. Then Theodore went off to Africa to shoot lions. When he returned,he exploded. He denounced Taft to secure the nomination for a third term himself, form the Bull moose party, and all but demolished GOP in the election that followed William Howard Taft and the Republican party carried only two state- Vermont and Utah. The most disastrous defeat the party had ever known.
Theodore Roosevelt blamed Taft, But did President Taft blame himself? of course not. With tears in his eyes, Taft said i don’t see how i could have done anything differently from what i have.
Who was to be blame? Roosevelt or Taft? Frankly, i don’t know, and i don’t care. the point i am trying to make is that all Theodore’s criticism didn’t persuade Taft that he was wrong. it merely made Taft strive to justify himself and to reiterate with tears in his eyes: “i don’t see how i could have done anything differently from what i have”.
when dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creature of emotion,creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Bitter criticism caused the sensitive Thomas Hardy one of the finest novelists ever to enrich English literature, to give up forever the writing of fiction. Criticism drove Thomas Chatterton, the English poet to suicide.
Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth,became so diplomatic,so adroit at handling people, that he was made the America Ambassador to France. The secret of his success ?.“I will speak ill of no man. He said i will speak all the Good i know of everybody.